Mental health is a commitment to reality at all costs.
– M. Scott Peck
So here we are. This is the first blog post of hopefully many. You are reading this right now from the middle of a journey and these blog posts are meant to offer some guidance, thoughts, discussions and writing prompts to keep you company. The journey of desisting or detransitioning is scary but heroic, as is any journey that entails a change of course from the one that you thought was meant for you.
Heroes take journeys, confront dragons, and discover the treasure of their true selves- Carol Pearson
Changing course is never easy, but it means that you have had the courage to ask yourself questions and challenge superficial solutions as well as your conditioning and self-delusions. It means that you have had the courage to doubt despite the pain of what that might mean for you, whether it be the bitterness of regret, the loneliness of exclusion or the burn of finding out that you still have a long way to go towards a goal that you might not even be able to imagine yet. You have had the courage to ask: What do I (not anyone else) need to do to truly heal my suffering?
“Soul work takes time and in order to support and maintain ourselves along this road of uncertainty we need to develop a practice and a dedication to health.”
Soul work takes time and in order to support and maintain ourselves along this road of uncertainty we need to develop a practice and a dedication to health. It needs to be routinely established, something you do as a matter of habit even when you don’t feel like it. It will be your anchor as you go through the ups and downs of life. It will be the place you return to for refuge and nourishment. It will be where you alchemize the emotions that surface into an expression of life and creativity rather than dysfunction and destruction.
The healing journey will present you with many opportunities to work with trauma and grief but this work requires a scaffolding to hold you. Good therapists are very sensitive to this; they always take their time to make sure that the conditions are right and that the support is there before attempting any deep work with emotions.
Establishing a relationship with your healthy creative self will help you move through and with your pain and suffering.
Without this essential groundwork, the tempest of uncovering trauma and working with suffering could be overwhelming and you could find yourself falling back into negative ways of coping.
Establishing a relationship with your healthy creative self will help you move through and with your pain and suffering. You will have the strength to resolve fear and touch emotional scar tissue and your strength and resilience will continue to grow. This blog is not a substitute for therapy, but it can help facilitate a relationship with yourself and any future therapeutic work that you do. Enjoy!