Let’s take a moment for wisdom and contemplation. Em had the opportunity to follow what her therapist and everyone else were telling her to do-start her medical transition to be a man or go to Nepal and study Buddhism. She was forced to confront this issue: “If the mind has no characteristics then what does …
Please don’t forget that #DetransAwarenessDay is on March 12, this coming Saturday. The reason why we should listen to detransitioners is because their experiences might help others who feel lost and alone, and who believe that medical and social transition is the only solution to their distress. It might help them reflect and understand their …
I’ve come into contact with profound grief. At its most acute it will physically cripple you over, but most of the time it just hangs out in the background like a dull thump. No matter what is going on, it always has a direct line to your thoughts. There are no waking or dreaming moments …
“The Personal is Political” was an important rallying slogan when it was coined in the late 60s by feminists who wanted to point out that women’s daily reality was impacted by politics and that through politics and action, the daily lives and experiences of women could improve. But times have changed and I think we …
The Personal is So Much More Profound Than the Political. Read More »
It takes time. Some people come to therapy and think that after 6 sessions they will resolve life conflicts that took a whole lifetime to accumulate. Especially if you are working with trauma, unpicking yourself takes time and energy and there are no shortcuts. It takes investment. Yes a weekly therapy session can be helpful, but …
Choosing a Path of Healing: Things to Keep in Mind. Read More »
“You and your people sterilized me and your saying I’m abusive because I’m upset about it.” Something is very wrong in the therapy world at the moment and real people are being damaged as a result. I listen to the voices and stories of detransitioners often. It is not easy listening, but doing so feels …
“Turn on, tune in and drop out” is a famous phrase that Timothy Leary spoke at the Human Be-In, a gathering of around 30,000 hippies in San Francisco in 1967. It has been interpreted many times but I think Leary’s own description in his autobiography is the most succinct: “Turn on” meant go within to …
There was a moment last year when I realized how bad things had gotten and how lonely it could feel. It was June 2nd, 2020, you know, that day when everyone suddenly had to show how much they cared about racial issues by showing the world on instagram how “woke” they were by putting up …
Sometimes you read things that make you want to scream and cry at the same time. I had that experience this morning. It was the account of a young woman who transitioned to a male and was still living as a male. I’m going to refer to her as a “she” in this post because …
This week I set myself a writing challenge. It’s only fair given I’m constantly talking about the benefits of reflective writing and expression. My assignment was to write about why I started Life Detransitions? The simple answer is- I felt I had to. I did my psychotherapy training in the UK, thank god before the …
Why I Started Life Detransitions: A Personal Story Read More »
